Sex...and the discussion of it

Post by **MonMotha** » Wed Mar 09, 2005 10:46 pm

TylerHHS wrote:To the post that said "well you want to be good at it"--

If you wait til marriage and both of you are virgins, how do you define what is "good"?

I'm not against premarital sex, just stirring it up =P!

I think that's part of the idea behind waiting until you've found mr/ms right. If neither person has any preconceptions about what sex is supposed to be like, both people will probably have an enjoyable time. After all, sex is certainly enjoyable, and with nothing else to compare it against (other than masturbation), the experience is likely to be all that much better subjectively.

Pheadra · Post by **Pheadra** » Wed Mar 09, 2005 11:56 pm

MonMotha wrote: After all, sex is certainly enjoyable, and with nothing else to compare it against (other than masturbation)

Pfft, not even masturbation and compare to great sex.... but the catch is, you have to experience great sex...

Fagulous · Post by **Fagulous** » Wed Mar 09, 2005 11:58 pm

Pheadra wrote:
MonMotha wrote: After all, sex is certainly enjoyable, and with nothing else to compare it against (other than masturbation)
Pfft, not even masturbation and compare to great sex.... but the catch is, you have to experience great sex...

Yes but sometimes masturbation is better than mediocre sex. So slut it up kiddies or face sexual discontentment for the rest of your lives.

CaseyDidder · Post by **CaseyDidder** » Thu Mar 10, 2005 12:12 am

MonMotha wrote:
TylerHHS wrote:To the post that said "well you want to be good at it"--

If you wait til marriage and both of you are virgins, how do you define what is "good"?

I'm not against premarital sex, just stirring it up =P!
I think that's part of the idea behind waiting until you've found mr/ms right. If neither person has any preconceptions about what sex is supposed to be like, both people will probably have an enjoyable time. After all, sex is certainly enjoyable, and with nothing else to compare it against (other than masturbation), the experience is likely to be all that much better subjectively.

keep thinkign that, coming from somebody whos never had sex this whole post confuses me. Trust me, SEX CAN BE BAD.

Post by **MonMotha** » Thu Mar 10, 2005 12:13 am

Pheadra wrote:Pfft, not even masturbation and compare to great sex.... but the catch is, you have to experience great sex...

That's the idea. If the only thing you have to compare with is your right hand (or however you do it), the "real deal" should be all that much better.

Interestingly enough though, there's evidence that some people are actually much more aroused when masturbating than during actual sex with a partner, though I'm guessing that may have to do with people not expressing their actual desires with their partner.

Post by **MonMotha** » Thu Mar 10, 2005 12:15 am

CaseyDidder wrote:keep thinkign that, coming from somebody whos never had sex this whole post confuses me. Trust me, SEX CAN BE BAD.

You again miss the point. The idea is that even if the sex with your partner is bad, you have nothing to compare it against.

I'm not saying that just because you've never had sex before, your experience with your partner will be wonderful either, though.

And yea, double post! (POST COUNT +1)

Soma · Post by **Soma** » Thu Mar 10, 2005 12:48 am

Not so sure about the experience being wonderful either way, there's something to be said for getting the initial worries out of the way; I've heard too many stories involving people being too anxious or nervous, and that ruining things. Somebody in the equation needs to know what they're doing, heh.

Post by **MonMotha** » Thu Mar 10, 2005 12:51 am

That's certainly a valid point and a possible source of trouble. Ah sex, such a double edged sword (I'll leave it up to someone else to run with that particular analogy).

Original Sin · Post by **Original Sin** » Thu Mar 10, 2005 7:26 am

BeatmaniacIIDX wrote: Moving on... What do you all think about oral sex? Is it right or wrong? Good or bad?

I don't see how it can be 'wrong.' If you're having sex for the sake of pleasure, as most people do, and it feels good, then why not? I say, whatever floats your boat, so to speak. It all comes down to what you and your partner are comfortable doing.

And yes, I agree with Casey for once. There can be bad sex! And if both people involved are virgins, and are too nervous to get the hang of it, well, it's probably going to be very bad sex, whether you've experienced it before or not.

dancing queen iu · Post by **dancing queen iu** » Thu Mar 10, 2005 8:17 am

first time ass sex is always really bad

Original Sin · Post by **Original Sin** » Thu Mar 10, 2005 8:42 am

I'd imagine so. Just the concept in itself seems, well, painful.

BeatmaniacIIDX · Post by **BeatmaniacIIDX** » Thu Mar 10, 2005 9:30 am

Just put a sock in her mouth.

I dont know.. I want my first time with someone that's abit more quiet, shy, etc. Don't know why, just seems like it would be more fun. Plus, screamers turn me off. I mean, if my tounge makes them scream like they got shot in the leg with a colt .45, imagine how sex is.

Original Sin · Post by **Original Sin** » Thu Mar 10, 2005 9:31 am

Heh he, you'd need ear plugs.

Pheadra · Post by **Pheadra** » Thu Mar 10, 2005 10:46 am

OH trust me, I know bad sex can happen... >.<

As far as oral sex, I love giving it, as far as recieving it, I have to be in a mood. I have issues.

XxJennaxX · Post by **XxJennaxX** » Thu Mar 10, 2005 12:12 pm

Yes, sex can be bad, especially when both people's preferences clash. What can I say, I'm love rough sex.

But anyways, oral sex...hmm. I don't mind giving it. I suck both literally and figuratively depending on my mood. But it can be fun, especially with honey.

As far as receiving it, I'm very shy so I feel weird asking. But I think it is enjoyable. I just don't know what to do during it so I just stare at the ceiling.

Wow, I'm so much more direct in writing. Damnit, now I'm horny. I know where I"m going after school.