Sex...and the discussion of it

malictus · Post by **malictus** » Mon Mar 07, 2005 8:57 am

I have just a few tidbits to add here....

-monogamy = good
-waiting until you're out of your teens to have sex = good
-safe sex = very, very good
-sex = NOT overrated

-'saving yourself' for marriage = not so good, in my opinion

To make a lifetime relationship work, two people should be 100% sure that they are compatible in every way, including sexually. If you're a sexaholic, your wedding night is not the best time to find out your partner likes sex about once a month...

sam · Post by **sam** » Mon Mar 07, 2005 9:53 am

OUCH! I hope that didn't happen to you lol

malictus · Post by **malictus** » Mon Mar 07, 2005 10:40 am

sam wrote:OUCH! I hope that didn't happen to you lol

Not so much speaking from personal experience there, just from various people that I've talked to

Tsaren · Post by **Tsaren** » Mon Mar 07, 2005 12:18 pm

In all honesty if you marry someone who is a "sexaholic" and you find out on your wedding night you need to ask where they have been getting it from if you don't already know.

malictus · Post by **malictus** » Mon Mar 07, 2005 12:38 pm

Tsaren wrote:In all honesty if you marry someone who is a "sexaholic" and you find out on your wedding night you need to ask where they have been getting it from if you don't already know.

By 'sexaholic' I just mean someone with a high sex drive, not necessarily someone who's actually having sex (with another person

). There are a WIDE range of sexual desires and interests. Some people want it only every once in a while, others want it all the time. Some people like more variety than others. If you really believe that sex before marriage is wrong, you should AT LEAST talk together very openly about all this stuff....

Original Sin · Post by **Original Sin** » Mon Mar 07, 2005 5:26 pm

Yes, because that could wind up being a big problem...If you can't keep your partner satisfied, there's a chance they'll go somewhere else to get it. Not everyone, but sometimes. Obviously, that could pose a problem if you're married.

dancing queen iu · Post by **dancing queen iu** » Tue Mar 08, 2005 12:38 am

I just think abstinence is silly..

I mean you want it to be good for when you do get married right

Original Sin · Post by **Original Sin** » Tue Mar 08, 2005 7:17 am

dancing queen iu wrote:I just think abstinence is silly..

I mean you want it to be good for when you do get married right

That's also a valid point, but as with anything related to sex, discretion is key.

Soma · Post by **Soma** » Tue Mar 08, 2005 11:26 am

Note: 'Discretion' can easily be replaced by 'Wherever you can find it', with a little common sense.

Seriously though, if you haven't already spoiled it, wait for someone you know it'll mean something with. Sure, I lost my virginity drunkenly on a hotel floor, but it was with someone I loved. I'm sure it'll sound rather skewed coming from me, but experiencing it with the right person for the first time is probably the healthiest thing that can be done for your sexual attitude.

LoveIsCaffeinated · Post by **LoveIsCaffeinated** » Wed Mar 09, 2005 1:05 am

i'm 16 so i guess my opinion doesn't count much, but sex seems to me like something special. you share your entire being with someone mind, body and soul. and i guess if you do it over and over it stops being worth as much. which is why i'm waiting; i want a fullfilling sex life. all this crap about being good and 'sexually compatible' i think is just that: crap. if you want to be good you and your marriage parter have got a lifetime to get it down just right.

Original Sin · Post by **Original Sin** » Wed Mar 09, 2005 7:18 am

What you said is partially true. Sex can be something special if it's with someone you care enough about. As you said, it's sharing. Just having sex to be doing it isn't really about sharing anything, it's about pleasure, that's about it. As far as sexual compatability, yeah, you can work to be compatable with your partner, but there are some things about yourself/therself and their sexual orientation and preference that can't be changed. Some people are just naturally kinky, while others are naturally reserved. If you stray outside your sexual orientation or your comfort zone too much, it can become the opposite of what it's supposed to be.

CaseyDidder · Post by **CaseyDidder** » Wed Mar 09, 2005 6:12 pm

LoveIsCaffeinated wrote:i'm 16 so i guess my opinion doesn't count much, but sex seems to me like something special. you share your entire being with someone mind, body and soul. and i guess if you do it over and over it stops being worth as much. which is why i'm waiting; i want a fullfilling sex life. all this crap about being good and 'sexually compatible' i think is just that: crap. if you want to be good you and your marriage parter have got a lifetime to get it down just right.

let us see a picture of you so we can decide if its your age that makes you think that or the lack of hawt. haha

TylerHHS · Post by **TylerHHS** » Wed Mar 09, 2005 7:23 pm

To the post that said "well you want to be good at it"--

If you wait til marriage and both of you are virgins, how do you define what is "good"?

I'm not against premarital sex, just stirring it up =P!

LoveIsCaffeinated · Post by **LoveIsCaffeinated** » Wed Mar 09, 2005 9:15 pm

let us see a picture of you so we can decide if its your age that makes you think that or the lack of hawt. haha

you know what - sure.

i'll probably post one tommorrow when my digital camera finishes charging. no one challenges my babeness~

and tyler from hhs, stir it up all you want. if you don't know who else is "good" than your parter is perfect.

BeatmaniacIIDX · Post by **BeatmaniacIIDX** » Wed Mar 09, 2005 10:38 pm

Depends all on when, who, and WHY. Why is the most important question... Is it because you'd fuck anyone with genitalia of the opposite sex or is it because you love them.

Moving on... What do you all think about oral sex? Is it right or wrong? Good or bad?